In honor of all things Gay Pride this week and because I'm finally getting around to it, I wanted to make sure that I documented this post for My Future Self.
Dear Future Self, remember back in November of 2008 when we were all warm and fuzzy for all things change while reserving the right to still be miffed regarding Obama's - and California's - stance on gay marriage? Well, wouldn't you know, for all the shit that's hit the fan since then, some things did change. Some things like Presidents and Vice Presidents finally taking a stand and saying it loud and proud:
"Personally it was important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same-sex couples should be able to get married”
- President Barrack Obama, May 2012
Years from now this will be seen as both a historical inevitability and a no-brainer. Kind of like how today's generation thinks of interracial marriage as a no-brainer. But really, it wasn't that long ago when folks were fighting for Civil Rights and equality for blacks while remaining pretty conservative regarding interracial marriage. It wasn't until the late 1970's that public opinion started to change. When the 'younger generation' started to grow up and see interracial marriage as the norm, but it took time.
While today public opinion polls reflect a growing-but-barely 50%+ approval on gay marriage, our conservative right are still passing their legislature to ban it in their conservative right states. And to them I say, enjoy it now because that too will change. As our 'younger generation' grows up with openly gay friends and sees same-sex couples pushing strollers and walking down the aisles, my optimistic self finds comfort in knowing that our current generation of conservative friends will be out-grown on this subject. I look forward to the day when folks realize that homeosexual marriage did not end up undermining heterosexual marriage, contributing to it's ultimate demise and downfall of procreation and families. That it did not in fact, open the door for the leaglization of polygamy and legalized marriage to animals. And instead, what it did do,was create an additional avenue to grow well-balanced little humans with open minds. That it allowed for said little humans to be raised by 2 loving parents in a nurturing environment because they were wanted and they were loved. That it paved the way for all little humans to feel free to be who they want to be and to know that they will be loved no matter who they love (cue Marlo Thomas's Free to be You and Me here).
So where do we go from here? When do we get past the part where as some states continue to ban same sex marriage others fight to legalize it? At what point does it finally get to become a federal issue and thus acknowledged that this is vital to the pursuit of happiness?
My optimistic self doesn't know ya'll, but for now, let's appreciate Obama and Biden's pronouncement for what it is - a small victory, a stepping stone to an inevitable social norm, an inevitable no-brainer.