Last week Target released an inclusive bathroom policy that allows people to use whichever restroom they identify with. In other words, transgender friendly. And not surprisingly but always surprisingly, the human race turned out in masses to protest, fearing that the lives and virtue of mothers and daughters nation-wide were now at risk. Target has given free reign to creepy predators to dress in women's clothing and walk in to any Target restroom without fear of repercussion. And what will they do once inside these restrooms? Well they will undoubtedly pray on our women and daughter folk of course. Yes, that is the argument and yes this is the 21st century.
Because that is where the predators go. Predators have been laying in wait apparently for the day to come when the skies rained free passes to stalk people in restrooms. Because they're not doing that already? Because it doesn't already happen in men's restrooms too? Sadly what people are failing to remember/realize is that almost all predators never have been and never will be found inside restrooms and that 75% of predators are actually people we know. You know. I know. Our kids know. They're not cross dressing and lurking in the shadows. They are in our families, neighborhoods, and classrooms. And while 1 in 4 girls will be targeted at some point in their lives, it is also 1 in 6 boys that will be targeted and the predators don't just have penises, but they have vaginas too!
So it's not about the restrooms at all. It's about continuing to deny basic civil rights - human rights - to our fellow men and women. It's about using fear as an excuse to be a total asshole. Why not let people go to the freaking bathroom in the same facility as people with whom they most closely identify? Instead people feel much better about showing their own children that discrimination is OK and that it is OK to fear and judge that which they do not understand.
Target's bold move was meant to send a strong message while some conservative governors recently signed legislation to allow individuals and institutions with religious objections to deny service to gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, and transgender people. We need more bold moves like Target. We need more companies and politicians to show our youth that being different is OK, it doesn't make you a predator or a person to be feared until you do something to someone that is predatory or fearful.
I'd like to say that by the time the little human person is 10 years of age she won't have to see headlines about people being discriminated against due to their sexual orientation or gender identity. Who knows what hers will be? But then it was only 8 years ago when Proposition 8 was being disputed in California and even though 7 years later the Supreme Court legalized same sex marriage, we are still fighting battles against organizations and institutions that have also been given a pass to refuse service of any kind to those groups. As fast as laws are being created to include all the humans, just as many are being passed to discriminate and ironically, it's the people who rally to discriminate that I start to fear, rather than those being discriminated against.